Therapy Is Cool

Several months ago, I embarked on a transformative journey through psychotherapy—and the impact has been nothing short of remarkable.

For a long time, I believed the myth that therapy was only for people who were “crazy.” It’s disheartening how deeply rooted that misconception still is in many cultures.

But therapy is simply a space to be human.

Everyone deserves to live a life that is happier, healthier, and more whole.

Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the United States, affecting more than 17 million people each year.

Think about that—millions are silently struggling, believing that asking for help makes them “weak.” But the truth is, it takes incredible strength to seek support.

To me, that’s what true resilience looks like.

Resilience isn’t found in the denial of our pain—it’s in the willingness to use the tools available to help us heal and thrive.

Across cultures, depression and other mental health challenges are often met with alternatives to therapy: prayer in Black, Latinx, and South Asian communities; self-medication; avoidance; or simply the belief that “it’ll pass.” While prayer and hope have their place, ignoring the need for professional support can be harmful.

The stigma surrounding mental health in marginalized communities is dangerous. It chips away at us silently, contributing to higher risks of substance abuse, incarceration, poverty, violence, and suicide.

I realized I was battling the same mental health challenges as much of the world—but compounded by racism, discrimination, and economic inequality.

During my first therapy session, I told my therapist that I had always felt like I needed therapy, but I had never taken action.

She asked, “Why is that?”

I answered, “Because therapy is rare in my community. Among Black men, there’s often this expectation to be emotionally stoic. That mindset shapes the way we see ourselves and limits the emotions we feel safe expressing.”

She understood—and told me she was glad I was choosing something better for myself.

I had to free myself from the misconceptions that made me feel trapped in outdated expectations. Those limitations weren’t mine to carry.

I refuse to live in a box. I will always find ways to grow into the strongest version of myself.

Mental health deserves the same attention and care as physical health. It’s just as vital to our well-being as eating well, sleeping enough, and staying active.

To be completely transparent, I’ve been diagnosed with depression, social anxiety, paranoia, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

No matter how strong my faith in God is, how positive I am, or how resilient I try to be—having professional help adds a powerful layer of support.

Therapy has changed my life. I feel stronger and more hopeful than I ever have.

For those unfamiliar with psychotherapy, it’s simply a safe space to be fully seen—good, bad, and in-between—and still be reminded that you’re worthy of love and compassion.

It’s a beautiful feeling to sit with my therapist every week, even if just for an hour, and talk through my thoughts, my doubts, my pain, and my wins—knowing she sees it all as valid and important.

Research shows that because of how our brains and hearts are wired, we can be transformed through caring, consistent human connection.

With my therapist’s guidance, I’ve developed a deeper understanding of myself and my past traumas. That insight has been the catalyst for healing and personal growth.

Through intentional work, I’ve reshaped how I think and respond, forming healthier patterns that have improved my mood, emotions, and behavior.

When you realize you do have the power to rewire your thoughts, break toxic cycles, and create better habits—you start to live with more freedom and authenticity.

It’s been over six months now, and my therapist has witnessed tremendous growth in me.

I’m incredibly thankful for her support and the life-changing impact she’s had on my journey.

Therapy, for me, is a path guided by a higher power—and I’m filled with gratitude. I see it as a divine intervention. I’ll continue to seek professional help for the rest of my life, knowing how crucial it is to my healing and evolution.

While I absolutely recommend therapy to anyone reading this, I also understand that it's a personal choice.

Still, one of the most powerful ways to break the stigma around mental health is to offer understanding to others who may be silently suffering. By leading with empathy, we help create a more compassionate and supportive world.

Initially, I planned to keep this part of my life private—out of fear it would be seen as weakness. But my therapist reminded me that there’s no shame in wanting to get better. She encouraged me to share my story.

So here it is. My hope is that this helps inspire, educate, and raise awareness around mental health.

You are not alone. You deserve healing. And therapy is one powerful way to start.

If you do want to try therapy, click here to find a therapist near you.